WILL

Technology is playing more and more of a role in our lives and all aspect of life seem to be embrassing and evolving with it. A while back I wrote about how technology brought people around the world to our doorsteps. No longer were we confinded to our city or town in the people we met. Ran accross an article on courtship and started reading. Intriging how things have evolved. Romance is now more possible no longer is one just limited to the traditional ways. It is hard for those of us who would like the traditional means of courtship. I started reading more of the article and saw how people are using technology to their advantage. Long Distance relationships are more common now not just for dating but even for married people. I know this may not be the best for everyone but it has opened the doors for other possibilities. Having gone through two LDR (long distance relationships) I can say it takes alot of efforts. The first one though it was the hardest seemed to be the simplest and successful. How could that be? It was almost 18 years ago before the internet, text messaging and cell phones. The last one was 2 years ago and though we had the conviniences of all this modern technology it didn't work! Why? Is it harder with todays technologies? I think it still comes down the the simple things. The two parties have to want it to make it successful. Looking back I see that lacking in the second. The understanding that this can't be forever and at some point someone has to be willing to make a move. The open dialog in this respects is very important. What else is needed? Relationships need romance and though there is nothing that replaces a touch, a hug or a kiss, there are other ways to do it. A simple Text message saying "I'm thinking of you." How bout a phone call when you know your lover is working and leaving a romantic message. Even the traditional ways (a letter or card or flowers) still play a surpising show of love and affection. Given all these keys the most important is the WILL from both sides. I guess in the technology of courtship we still can't forget the simple things to show intrest, love, and affection!
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You're 35; try giving long-distance love a shot
THE WASHINGTON POST
Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Dear Carolyn: My story: Boy meets girl out in Washington, D.C.; instant chemistry. On first real date, girl admits to boy that she already has plans for moving to New York City in a couple weeks to attend school for about a year, but that she likes boy, too. Girl postpones moving plans a bit, spending an additional two months with boy, who continues to fall madly in love with girl. But, boy really wants girl to pursue professional dreams, and is supportive, while admitting he will miss her.
Girl is now moving in less than a month. Boy has never been a big fan of long-distance situations, but has never felt this way before, even though, at 35, he probably should be old enough to know better! Girl is 27. Is it better to sever things so that both can fully enjoy everything their respective cities have to offer? — Matt

Dear Matt: Boy, oh boy. Boy boy boy. You have met someone for whom you have feelings that you've never felt before, and you are 35. And you'd sever things? Over being a three-hour train ride apart? For a year?
You must be reading advice to younger readers or something.
If you were 21, the never-felt-this-before standard would still be significant, but you'd have to weigh it against the fact that as a new adult you're going to feel a whole lot of things you've never felt before.
But at the threshold of middle age, you should in fact know yourself better. A few months of knowing someone is nothing, but knowing when you've found a good thing is everything.
Besides, at any age, there isn't much sense in throwing away a perfectly good toaster just because there's a chance it might break. Have the nerve to tell her you care enough to want to keep seeing her, then have the nerve to see where it goes.